How to survive a job you hate

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Do you frequently walk into work each morning and think ughhh not this again? I know that feeling all too well! Waking up to a 9 to 5 job everyday feels like you never left work. One minute you’re making your way home and the next you’re turning off the alarm for work the next morning. If you’re someone like me who’s constantly buzzing with ideas/plans of things they want to achieve in life, going to a job you’re not passionate about is mental torture.

Not a day goes by when I don’t ask myself why am I still here. Dealing with the bitchiness, microaggressions and managers breathing down my neck on a day to day basis is emotionally draining. In an ideal world I would never work a 9-5 job and just live my life pursuing all the things I enjoy. However like many others, I depend on my job to pay my bills. I don’t come from a privileged background with an abundance of savings to fall back on. The option to just quit and pursue my goals is not realistic at this present moment. Coming from a low-income/poor background does not afford you the same options as someone with a safety net who can leave their job without any repercussions.

I think society undermines the emotional and physical toll it can have on people who are in a job they don’t enjoy. Within capitalist society, it’s not about whether you like your job, but working as a matter of survival. This harsh reality requires us to find coping mechanisms to help preserve our well-being. Over the past year I have been finding new ways to cope on a day to day basis until I am finally able to make that leap to pursue my career goals. These methods have helped me and I want to share them with you.

Tips to help you survive your job:

1. Have a passion outside of work- Whether it’s reading, community work or dance classes, indulging in a hobby outside of work will bring joy and a sense of fulfilment into your life. Having a hobby can keep you motivated to continue your day knowing that you have something to look forward to afterwards. If you’re in the process of setting up a business you’re passionate about, the dislike you have for your job should act as a source of motivation to spend a little time each day working on that said idea and putting it into fruition.

2. Change your perspective of your job- I was watching a Lisa Nicols video (check her out if you haven’t already) on Youtube and she said something that had a profound impact on me. She said “see your job as your investor”. Once I heard this I stopped thinking of my job as a burden but as something that was funding my goals. When you start to feel low about your job, say to yourself I’m going to work for my ‘investor’. If you picture your job as someone who’s funding your dreams then it’ll make you feel more motivated to go into work.

3. Set yourself a realistic time period for you to leave your job (if you want to quit)- If you hate your job so much that you want to leave, set yourself a realistic and attainable deadline of when you want to leave your job. Take into consideration that your financial situation might fluctuate and any other external factors that might inhibit you from quitting i.e. whether you’ve accumulated enough experience or how long it’ll take you to find another job. I made the mistake previously of over anticipating when I could leave, only to be disappointed when certain financial burdens got in the way. Set yourself a target and focus your mind each day to preparing yourself to meet your goal.

4. Take breaks at work when you get frustrated- If you’re at work and you find yourself feeling agitated about your job, take a few minutes away to recollect your thoughts. Take an extra few minutes away from your computer screen or take a longer toilet break (do whatever doesn’t get you caught out lol). If you’re someone like me who gets easily annoyed this is important. By taking some time out, it gives you an opportunity to remind yourself of your intentions and why you’re at your job in the first place.

5. Set yourself mini goals- Dedicate some time to write down what you want to achieve every week. It’s usually recommended that you write down a few mini goals to achieve each day instead of a lengthy list. Writing down your goals and achieving them will make you feel more fulfilled knowing you’re spending time nurturing your life outside of work.

And lastly. You might dislike your job but i’m sure you can find some good aspects of it too. Your job is probably teaching you excellent transferable skills that can be used for your next job/career choice. That annoying manager is teaching you vital skills about leadership. Your retail job is teaching you how to interact with customers which is vital for having your own business. Your salary is funding those nights out with your friends and start the up money to pursue your dreams. Take advantage of the experiences that your job is offering you. The positives and negatives all make for great live lessons. And remember, you don’t have to be stuck in this job forever!

Are you currently in a job you dislike?

What are the struggles you face on a daily basis? And how do you cope, if at all?
I hope i’m not by myself in this struggle haha.


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19 responses to “How to survive a job you hate”

  1. Excellent article, Ash. I faced such a situation when I arrived in America. After a stimulating and dynamic career in international trade in Brazil, I found myself tidying shelves in a large department store. Your #1 advice, have a passion outside of work, restored my sanity. I took a writing course and began writing short stories.

    1. Oh wow that’s such a massive transformation that you had to go through! I definitely can see why writing could help in those circumstances. Writing is also something that kept me sane throughout the years. It reassured me that there’s other things in my life I can accomplish and not to limit myself to my current job. It’s like a therapeutic hobby. Thank you for taking your time out to read 🙂 x

      1. Ash, my therapeutic hobby turned into a new writing profession as a novelist.

      2. Omg amazing! That’s so inspiring. It makes me want to take writing more seriously x

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    1. Hey love! Thank you so much I appreciate you taking your time out to read my blog post 🙂 I’m looking forward to reading more of your content and I hope you have a blessed week ahead 🙂 xx

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  3. You are definitely not by yourself. These are great suggestions. Each year I have to come up with a way to get through it. Because I feel overqualified for my job, last year, I treated my job like a service project LOL Might sound arrogant, but it worked.

    1. lmao that’s such a great idea!! I might use that method too, in that way it feels like there’s a real purpose for you being at your job. Whatever helps us get through the day. Thank you for reading 🙂 x

  4. All good tips! Yes! We must have watched that SAME Lisa Nichols video, because I adopted the same “work is my investor” mindset when I heard it! Thanks for sharing these tips!

    1. YESS Lisa Nicols is always dropping gems. That investor perspective changed the game completely for me. I survived a-lot of rough days by just referring back to that video. Thank you so much for reading. I look forward to reading more of your posts 🙂

  5. You’re definitely not alone. I now have a job I love but I fought to get out of my last job I hated. I’ve found that usually it’s not the work you hate, it’s the people. The actual work, if your qualified to do it, is a breeze. Dealing with the passive aggressions, sexism, racism, etc. is like being in high school all over again. What helped me was three things: 1) I prayed a lot. This may not seem helpful but it really calmed me down when I was at my wits end. Philippians 4:6,7 mentions that after you pray you “gain the peace of God” that can “guard your hearts and mental powers”. I prayed for patience and self-control a lot and also the discernment needed to not make a rash decision and quit sooner than I should have. 2) I read an article that helped me change my perspective (here’s a link: This article helped me to focus on my work and think about how it benefited others. I worked at a cancer hospital so I could see the benefits everyday. It helped me to deal with my catty gossiping coworkers and managers. 3) I kept in mind that I needed a good reference so no one could say I didn’t work hard or didn’t know what I was doing. Eventually i was blessed with a better job, better work environment and more pay.

    1. First of all congratulations for getting a new job and one that you enjoy! That’s so true, you can be in a great job but dread it everyday because of the people you are working with. I didn’t like my previous job mainly because of the work dynamic, having managers breathing down my neck alongside the bitchiness. It drained my energy. And Yesss the sexism, racism etc on a daily basis is too much!! It got to the point where I was angry all the time because of the dumb stuff I’d hear. I love everything you’ve said, especially the fact that you prayed for patience and self-control. Praying and meditating helped keen me sane. If It wasn’t for those two things I would have quit my job too soon or loose my mind. That’s amazing how you done such rewarding work. Now you can see the fruits of your labour through your new job. That’s so inspiring. Also thank you for sharing that article, it’s very helpful!! And thanks for commenting, I hope you have a lovely week 🙂

      1. Thank you so much! Sometimes its all in the mindset when you’re going through hard times, and a readjustment in thinking can really help you through. Something else that helped me was 1 Corinthians 10:31 “do all things for God’s glory”. When I stopped working hard trying to get promoted and simply focused on doing good work to glorify God, dealing with my coworkers became more bearable, at least until I got another job.

      2. Your mindset is everything!! It can make or break you. See if you had focused on the negative aspects of your job, you probably wouldn’t have gotten through it. But changing your perspective and focusing on doing work ultimately to help others has lead you to receive a new job that you enjoy. For me it helps me reminding myself everyday that my purpose is to help others and I make a vow to myself to spend each day doing something towards that goal. Thank you for sharing, your story is very helpful💙

  6. Simply WOW!
    Keep writing 🙂

    1. Thank you so much ☺️💜

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