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Benefits of being Vulnerable

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Have you ever opened up to someone only to have your trust broken? When you’ve experienced being hurt by someone you trusted, it can be difficult to allow yourself to be vulnerable again. To protect ourselves from being hurt, we may end up putting up a wall to guide our hearts.

“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.” -Brene Brown

You can’t predict the outcome or control other people’s actions. There’s always going to be a risk of things not working out when you allow yourself to be vulnerable. When you let go of your protective wall, you could find yourself nurturing a deep emotional connection with others.

Confession time! I have a difficult time trusting others. When I get close to people, my initial reaction is to guard parts of myself. Recently I decided to open myself up to someone about how I was feeling and what was bothering me. It felt like a release to speak without a filter and share my truth. Shortly after our conversation, I regretted how vulnerable I was on the phone. It triggered my trust issues. I immediately questioned whether they’d tell others about what I disclosed or use it against me. After doing some reflecting for a couple of days, I realised that I can’t control other people’s actions. As long as I showed up as my authentic self and opened myself up to potentially making a connection, that’s all that matters.

Benefits of Vulnerability

Allows you to be your authentic self- Allowing yourself to be vulnerable isn’t all about the potential connection you can make. Vulnerability allows you to show up as your authentic self. It’s an opportunity to honour who you are and your story.

Demonstrates courage- Being vulnerable is a sign of courage because despite not knowing the outcome, you decided to leap of faith.

You can learn about yourself- Vulnerability teaches us lessons about ourselves. When it doesn’t work out, you can learn from your experiences. It may teach you a greater lesson about yourself or that person, which will ultimately help you to navigate our future challenges.

So in conclusion, be vulnerable. Express the fullness of who you are. You may get hurt by the wrong people but it won’t be the end of the world. You will find people who will respect you.

Question to you:

  1. What are your thoughts on vulnerability?
  2. Why do you think it’s important to be vulnerable?

 

Let me know your thoughts!

Love, Ash x 

Ash Alves

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11 responses to “Benefits of being Vulnerable”

  1. Paul Sunstone Avatar
    Paul Sunstone

    Excellent post! Yhank you for sharing it, Ash.

    Your first point — vulnerability allows you to be your authentic self — cannot be over-emphasized, don’t you think?

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    1. Ash Avatar
      Ash

      Thank you for reading this! It’s my pleasure. And yes I totally agree with you 💕

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  2. Sierra Avatar
    Sierra

    I’ve never thought about vulnerability being courageous but you’re right.

    I do feel like vulnerability is special and takes strength and also humility because to be vulnerable Esp in intimate or close relationships it’s kind of imperative for it to really grow and thrive. But more often than not people rather save face and maybe just let the other party be vulnerable as a means of control.

    But vulnerability is important to truly feel close to someone and to trust. And also like you mentioned I think EVERYONE deserves the chance to be truly vulnerable with someone, to let the weights of the world off their shoulders… it’s too much for us to carry all our baggage alone. We have to help each other carry

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    1. Ash Avatar
      Ash

      Yess I totally agree with you! It’s necessary for us to build fulfilling intimate relationships with others. We all deserve to be vulnerable with someone and feel like we can be our true selves. That’s fundamental to our survival IMO. Thank you for reading this and have a great day 🥰

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  3. CallmeSasha Avatar
    CallmeSasha

    This is such a lovely post. I know for a fact being vulnerable is something I’ve struggled with. Finding out and working on my attachment style helped me a lot to get to the root of it. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Ash Avatar
      Ash

      Ohh yes! Working on attachment style is so important. I learned a lot about myself when I began to look into how I form relationships with others. Thank you for reading this and have an amazing day ☺️💜

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  4. Florence Ezekafor Avatar
    Florence Ezekafor

    You have spoken well. You’re right, we need vulnerability to be able to stay in relationships. I must say that vulnerability is what we desire in others, yet we see it as a weakness within us. No one wants to be vulnerable. No one wants to be dumped again, no one wants to be brutalised the second time. We want to detect toxic relationships and avoid then like a plague and I think that’s okay. If someone is vulnerable, he or she doesn’t plan to. He or she only can’t help but be vulnerable. It’s in the person’s nature. I witnessed first hand the story of a girl who remained in a relationship with a boy who beat her often because she was the vulnerable one until she really got killed. You see, it’s not always good to be vulnerable with people you can trust, even at that, humans change. We only need to be careful. We do our bests to give ourselves to others in relationships but make sure we’re not taken for granted.

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  5. parneetsachdev Avatar
    parneetsachdev

    It is Ok to be vulnerable. This post presents a very unique perspective. excellent

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    1. Ash Alves Avatar
      Ash Alves

      Yes absolutely! It’s good to be vulnerable because that’s how we cultivate deep connections. Thank you <3

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  6. Lauryn Avatar
    Lauryn

    I recently found your blog and i’m in love.

    I’m now transitioning into adulthood in my 20 somethings and I will say that at first I did not like being vulnerable I thought it was weak.

    But now I’ve realized that I’m just scared to be vulnerable due to past things that have happened. However I don’t wanna be scared anymore.

    But I think it’s important to be vulnerable because it allows yourself to show up for you and it allows you to be authentically you. No matter what the other person thinks or chooses to do with how you express your vulnerability. You should be vulnerable always and that’s something I’m learning.

    I didn’t mean for this to be so long but your blog just inspires me! I’m wow.

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    1. Ash Alves Avatar
      Ash Alves

      Hey Lauryn, thank you for taking the time out to read this blog post. Firstly, I totally resonate with you. It’s still something I’m working through but the benefits of being vulnerable outweigh being closed off. If our trust is betrayed, we will survive it. Part of living is being vulnerable and opening ourselves up to connection. I’m humbled that this post has inspired you. Wishing you all the best in your journey! <3

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